Four Things You Must Do If You Want Your Students to Pay Attention

Gravitate towards Gravitas

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Most new teachers know the horrible sinking feeling that comes with being ignored by students. And while there could be a number of causes, I found that the source of my problem lay in my lack of what the Ancients called ‘gravitas’, meaning a speaker’s perceived weight or seriousness (think of David Attenborough in any of his nature documentaries – knowledgeable, passionate and calm).

We’ve all met memorable and interesting people who have gravitas and while they appear to have accrued this charm naturally, the good news is that gravitas is a learnable trait, some parts of which you might already excel at.

Caroline Goyder in her book Gravitas: Communicate with Confidence, Influence and Authority sums it up with The Gravitas Equation[1]:

(Knowledge + Purpose + Passion) – Anxiety = Gravitas

Knowing your stuff

I can recall teaching too many lessons where I simply did not know the topic well enough. I was clearly not the expert in the room so why on earth did I expect the students to listen? These days, whenever I demonstrate that I know something the students don’t and am then able to explain it clearly to them, they listen. Invest your time in knowing inside out what you intend to teach and how to deliver it in a clear and compelling manner. A teacher who knows their subject well:

  • stands still with both feet pressed into the ground
  • expresses clear thoughts in a logical and well-paced manner
  • uses vocabulary that is their own (they know what it means and how to pronounce it correctly)

Showing purpose

What matters to you? Whether it’s a love for the subject, the quality of your students’ work or simply a respect for the school’s ethos, show that these are important in your tone of voice and in your eyes. You could:

  • make eye contact with individual students as you give instructions or explain concepts, rather than broadcasting to the class as a homogenous mass.
  • speak in a positive, playful voice most of the time. Keep it light and encouraging. Relax and smile to impart a positive tone.
  • show students’ kindness, compassion and empathy to form a trusting bond that is more likely to move them to action as opposed to simple ‘do as I say’ authority.

Being your passionate self

Your students will figure out if you’re trying to be someone you’re not, so don’t put on a flashy performance or speak in an obviously scripted way as it will give the impression you don’t appear to care about what you’re teaching.

If you truly care you will engage them when you talk about your subject. But if you don’t care, it will scream a lack of confidence and you’ll lack authority. Besides, putting on a façade will make you tense and nervous. Not only is this unpleasant for yourself, the students will feel this tension too. Remember: what you feel, they feel. If you’re tense and holding your breath, so will they.  

In order to engage hearts as well as minds you’ll need to be yourself and not someone dryly reading from a Powerpoint slide. Your lesson materials are not the lesson itself. They are there to enhance what you’re teaching, but the students leaving the lesson should think ‘great lesson’. They should not be thinking ‘great resources’.

The students have turned up to see you so don’t pretend. You are enough, flaws and all. Besides, perfection is dull so stop trying to appear so. And when you’re not worrying so much about yourself, you’ll have a greater capacity to help them. And isn’t that why we’re there in the first place?

Letting go of anxiety

Nerves and feelings of self-consciousness stem from a fear of not measuring-up or fitting-in. As a new teacher, we obsess about what we’re not, rather than what we are.

Concentrate on how you are already valuable, not on how you can strive to become so. You need to be able to manage yourself before you can manage a classroom.

Being able to stay calm and confident under pressure will give you gravitas as you won’t feel tempted to get drawn into arguments. You’ll be calm and aware of yourself and others and able to bring yourself back to calm quickly in anxious moments, treating students as your equals and showing interest in them. You’ll be able to accept their perspectives even if you don’t agree with them.

While you may not develop David Attenborough’s charm overnight, with the Gravitas equation you can at least get a few more kids looking at you when you speak.

[1] Goyder, Caroline, Gravitas: Communicate with Confidence, Influence and Authority, Vermilion (6 Mar. 2014)

The Biggest Mistake I Made When I Started Teaching

Sleep is for the week

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When I was a new teacher I found myself overwhelmed with work: lesson planning, writing-up lesson evaluations and observations, gathering evidence, reading, writing essays, sending emails, setting homework, marking… And most of this was done after 3pm when the classroom teaching had been done. Like a lot of teachers, I found myself working late into the evening and often into the early mornings. All of this while waking up early to be at school by 8am. Gradually I began cutting down on sleep. At first this seemed to be of benefit. I was getting so much done! Why hadn’t I thought of this before? But very soon the consequences of sleep deprivation set in and my lack of sleep was a hinderance more than a help. The problems I had were several:

Confusion and brain fog

My difficulty concentrating compounded over time. Tasks were taking longer so I was working more and getting even less sleep than before. It was a vicious spiral. Also, it was harder to learn which stunted by progress.

Unhealthy food cravings

Research shows that not getting enough sleep increases sweet and salty cravings by 30-40%.[1] Personally, I found myself eating entire packs of biscuits after school, huge bars of chocolate on the bus, or even a bag of crisps for breakfast.

Lack of creativity and problem-solving

I struggled to find solutions to the problems I was having causing me to spiral into ever-worsening circumstances.


Sleep improves your memory, halting forgetfulness by 30-50%.[2] My declining memory was frightening and several times I struggled to remember the names of colleagues and students who I had worked with for months.

Reliance on caffeine

Drinking coffee while also trying to teach children meant I was jittery and prone to overreaction when lessons didn’t go well. I couldn’t manage my mood well enough which led to me reacting to difficult situations emotionally.

Poor appearance

I looked as tired as I felt. Colleagues (and on occasion students) would comment on the bad impression I gave.

Here’s how I now get more sleep:

Spread your workload

There was once a time when I’d foolishly try to mark 30 pieces of work in one sitting. No more. 30 bits of work over a 5-day work week is 6 pieces a day. Assuming you’re spending 5-10 minutes per piece, that’s a manageable 30-60 minutes every day.

Sharpen the saw

I thought that working more was the answer, but this was short-sighted. I now sacrifice time I could spend working (sawing) trying to learn better ways of working (sharpening the saw) to make myself more effective. An example might be reading a book on behaviour management that could reduce the number of detentions I need to set. The time spent reading the book is time invested which pays of in saving even more time in the future which helps me get to bed sooner.

Get into the habit of going to bed

I got into the bad habit of staying up late to work which proved disastrous over time. Here are some ways I started this good habit:  

1. Use your bedroom for sleep only

If this is not possible, reserve your bed as a zone for sleeping only and not as a comfortable place to work, watch television or any other mentally stimulating activity.

2. Keep it simple

The habit of going to bed earlier can be daunting. What if I’m not tired? What if I won’t be able to fall asleep? Initially your task is not to go to bed and fall asleep straight away. All you need to do is get in bed at your chosen time. Once you have done this you have succeeded. Whether you sleep or not should not worry you to begin with. But first, go to bed.

3. Stack the new habit

Plan to go to bed immediately after a daily habit you already have. For instance, perhaps you wash the dishes after dinner. Write down on a post-it: ‘I will go and lie down in bed at 10 o’clock’. Writing this down with a specific time and place makes you more likely to do it.

4. Make it attractive

You’re more likely to go to bed if it feels good. This will depend on personal preference. Some examples might include: putting a book you want to read on the pillow. Putting a cup of caffeine-free tea next to your bed. Getting a comfortable pillow. Personally, when it’s cold I like to put on an electric blanket as this makes bed the warmest place to be, and therefore the place I want to be the most.

5. Get support from those around you

We’re more likely to follow the behaviour of those around us so if possible encourage your family or spouse to also retire to bed at the same time.

6. Create a streak

Put a calendar next to your bed and put a cross each time you go to bed at the time you intend to. Once you do this several times in a row you’ll have started a streak you’ll not want to break.

[1] Walker, Matthew, ‘Why We Sleep’, Penguin; 01 edition (28 Sept. 2017)

[2] Walker, Matthew, ‘Why We Sleep’, Penguin; 01 edition (28 Sept. 2017)

What I Wish I’d Been Told When I Began Teaching

The Ghost of Lessons Past

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In Dicken’s A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge eventually confronts the error of his ways after being presented with the sight of his own gravestone. The realisation that life is short leaves him determined to go back to the present and live his life for the better.

If I had the chance to go back to my first couple of years as a teacher, and live it all over again, here’s what I would like to know beforehand:


I can’t say this enough: Stick with it. Write these three words on a post-it somewhere visible on your desk and recite it to yourself daily.  Any great pursuit takes years, not months. You won’t master it in your first year, nor your second. Keep going. I promise it gets better.

Find great mentors

Your school should assign a mentor to you, and you should be thankful for them. But that doesn’t mean you can’t seek out your own too. Look around for teachers you admire and copy what they do. Sometimes their methods might conflict and that’s okay. Take a critical view and decide what might work best for you.

Work hard

When the going got tough I began to disconnect from the job and get lazy. I had to remind myself that I was in the process of becoming a professional which meant showing up and doing my best work even when I didn’t feel like it. It meant caring and remaining emotionally connected to the job, holding high regard for how my work was going to impact others in the long-term.


I used to want to win arguments, to prove to others that I was right and they were wrong. I didn’t listen to what others were telling me. I had to learn how to have important, honest conversations; with my mentors, my line manager, parents and students.


You’re learning so you’re going to make mistakes and annoy most of the people you work with – staff, parents and students. It takes courage to own up to your mistake, and nothing defuses tension quite as wonderfully as saying you’re sorry.

Pursue high quality leisure

When I clocked off at the end of the day I would spend hours of my free time watching YouTube videos. It was a convenient trapdoor to mentally escape from the trials of the workday. But like a lot of internet-based entertainment, it drained me of time, energy and opportunity. I still watch Youtube, but in addition I now pursue entertainment which is more analogue than digital. For instance, when I feel the urge to browse social media, I’ll read a book instead. Rather than watching a twenty-minute video on Youtube, I’ll spend that time exercising.

Remind yourself why

Becoming a teacher is a choice. My reason will be different to yours, but whatever it is, you chose to teach over other ways of earning a living. Keep this reason in mind to help you persist when the work becomes stale or difficult.

Don’t get too attached

Don’t strive for recognition or praise. Doing good work is enough. Your generous efforts, not the results, should be where your focus lies.

Be grateful

The only time I ever saw my NQT mentor smile was when I gave him a bottle of wine to thank him for his help. People like to have their efforts recognised, and even something as simple as a written message of thanks might be kept for a lifetime. If you really want to treat your mentor, give them something they really want: more time.  Why not look for something that could be of mutual benefit to you both and offer to help them with it, such as preparing lesson resources you could both use.


The biggest mistake I made when I began teaching was skimping on sleep to get more work done. It seemed to be effective for a short period of time (a couple of days), but eventually I burnt out and it ruined my work.

25 Mistakes I Made When I Started Teaching

How my dream job turned into a nightmare

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Although it was years ago, I can still recall the observer’s face when I close my eyes at night. His head shaking as he scribbled down comments, eyes rolling each time I opened my mouth. 

Despite quality training and expert guidance, my learning curve as a new teacher had dwindled to a flatline, and I had little idea why.

Since then I think I’ve figured out what I should have known then: the 25 mistakes I made when I started teaching.

Being lazy. I’d had jobs before, but I was not prepared for the relentlessness of a school day nor the workload expected of teachers. I simply had not been in the right environment to develop the good habits that would enable me to make the most of my time and I quickly became overwhelmed.

Working too much. It turned out that working as hard as I could was not the answer either. I slept less and less which made it hard to concentrate and manage my mood.

Thinking I could do it alone. Help was everywhere, but I was too cynical to see it and too proud to seek it out. I felt too ashamed to admit I was struggling so I tried to endure it alone.

Asking too much of others. There is a fine line between getting help and having someone do it for you. I tended to lean a little too heavily on the latter, asking my mentors for things I should have taken upon myself.

Overthinking. I’d go to bed looping over in my mind the worst moments of the day and then wake up imagining all that could possibly go wrong in the day to come. It was no way to live.

Resorting to anger. My main feeling throughout those first few years was the fear that I would fail. When I was put under stress that fear would sometimes manifest in outbursts of anger.

Managing my time poorly. I wasted a lot of time: chatting with colleagues, getting cups of coffee, wandering the school corridors. It was nice, but none of it helped me become a better teacher.

Not drinking enough water. Using my voice a lot in a stuffy classroom without having a water bottle to hand meant I ended many a day severely dehydrated. Not only was this bad for my health, it compounded my feelings of stress and tiredness.

Drinking too much caffeine. I was already nervous. Adding caffeine into the equation meant I was usually tense; I would unconsciously clench my jaw and hold my breath. This in turn put the students on edge and as a result my classroom often had the atmosphere of a tinderbox.

Not sharing. I would spend hours creating lesson resources, but through a fear of judgement I rarely bothered to share these with my colleagues.

Having an ‘Us and Them’ mentality. I’d somehow got it into my head that students and colleagues were opponents, rather than allies. If I was going to succeed at teaching it would be despite them, not because of them.

Looking a mess. I got the not-so-bright idea that I could be more efficient with my time if I cut out any chores I thought were unnecessary – I stopped polishing my shoes, ironing my shirts and even getting regular haircuts.

Taking everything personally. I took feedback to heart and allowed it to upset me.

Taking everything too seriously. Have a sense of humour. Don’t let anyone make you angry or bitter or mean. Take the slings and arrows lightly and keep going.

Blaming others. Most of the problems I had in the classroom were my fault, but it was very tempting to tell myself otherwise: that I was a victim, someone else was a villain, or that I was in a helpless situation. None of which were true.

Hoping for the best. When planning lessons, it was comforting to simply hope for the best, that somehow the lesson would by chance work, and I’d be positively surprised. Having a well-thought-out plan always worked much better.

Being selfish. By concentrating too much on my own problems, I lost sight of the students’, whose problems I should have been trying to solve in the first place.

Forgetting why I wanted to teach in the first place. Losing sight of the reason for starting meant I didn’t have the comfort of the bigger picture. Remembering why I chose teaching made the struggle worth it when it got tough.

Not getting out enough. My problems always felt enormous because I’d stay sat in one place, my worry expanding to the size of the room until it seemed overwhelming.

Doing the hard work for them. Desperate for students to put pen to paper, I’d end up taking the challenge out of the work, lightening the load anyway I could. Eventually, my students avoided challenge at all costs.

Looking for greener pastures. I let myself believe that I’d ‘fallen into’ teaching, which really wasn’t the case. Becoming a teacher was a choice, but when the going got tough I questioned it, wasting my time daydreaming of other places I could be.

Gossiping. I’m ashamed to admit I would talk about colleagues and students behind their back, feeding feelings of resentment and wasting my time and energy.

Running away from feedback. I hated criticism and sometimes ignored it to my detriment. I failed to see the wisdom that could have helped me.

Not giving back to my mentor. By not offering anything of value to my mentor, he only offered me the bare minimum in support. The rare moments I managed to help my mentor, he often reciprocated in kind.

Ignoring family and friends. I neglected the people I love. Sometimes that meant not making the effort to see friends. Other times, although I was with people physically, I was too caught up in my own thoughts and anxieties to really be present with them. Further still, I didn’t seek their perspective on the problems in my head to get a true gauge of how serious (or not) they really were.

Perhaps you’ve recognised some of these in yourself. If so, take comfort knowing that you’re not the only one. And by spotting your mistake, you’ve taken the first step in getting better. Who knows, maybe you’ll even get your observer to crack a smile?

Best of luck for the year ahead.